thinking about abortion. ?
May 13th, 2009 Posted by: admin
before anyone starts freaking at me and telling me what a horrible person i am, please hear me out first. ( and sorry if it’s long) i went to the hospital tonight because i have been horrible sick the last two weeks. i thought i had the flu but it turns out i am pregnant. i am only 18, i am not close to either of my parents and don;t really have anyone to help me out. i am currently living with my boyfriend, and i am not working at the moment because i graduate in two months and i’m really trying to concentrate on school and graduating. i have already been so sick this week that i miss 4 out of the 5 days of school. if i keep this up i won;t graduaate but i can’t go if im constantly puking like i have been. i have no money saved up, and my boyfriend barely makes enough to afford the appartment we have now. i really feel like i am not ready to be a mom, i have so much more growing up to do and soo much more that i want to experience before i even think about having a kid. for anyone that has had an abortion before, is it really that bad? does it hurt? i know people are probably gonna tell to just put it for adoption .. but i really don’t think that i could carry it for nine months and give birth to it, then give it away. i think adoption is just the best answer for me. if you have an stories or anything feel free to share. thank you
By: alyshaa .
By: alyshaa .
Tags: Flu, Money, Nine Months
May 13th, 2009 at 11:41
You guys can do this!! You will regret it big time I think if you have an abortion. Everything happens for a reason. Obviously god thinks it’s your timeee to have a little one.
goodluck.
May 16th, 2009 at 21:14
I think it would be safer to opt for adoption, but it is your choice. Do not let anyone tell you what to do; do what you think is right.
Abortion will hurt, just like most other procedures. You will also be sore for a few days and have some bleeding. If you do abort, do it earlier as it will be easier.
You should find a free clinic like Planned Parenthood. They can counsel you and help you with whatever you decide.
Just make sure you take the time to think this over and do what YOU think you should do.
May 18th, 2009 at 10:41
i think this would be an appropriate time for an abortion. it is a super hard decision to make, but u don’t want to ruin your life. don’t let anyone talk u out of an abortion if that is what u know is best for u. I know u probably won’t like me for saying this, but u should have been more careful in the first place.
May 20th, 2009 at 23:33
i had one before and it was painful. at the time i thought it was the best thing for me at the time. i now have a 5 months old son and love him with all me heart . now i think back and regret that i had an abortion , im always wondering what would have happened if i had my first baby. but just think it through real good and if you feel thats what you need to do then do it.
May 21st, 2009 at 09:38
I can see and understand how you feel hun. But let me talk and you hear me out now. Your school is what all of your focus is on, and I serisouly think that is great. They do have programs for pregnant teens though, where you can take a few classes a week, or even online classes. There is options for you. You are young, and you may not be ready, but can you imagine that couple that so desperately wants and needs a child to feel a place in their hearts, and you being the one to feel it for them? Can you just imagine that happiness you could bring them, yourself, and your child? Any child is a gift from God, and sometimes you just open that gift to early. So you can bless another family with it. This child deserves to have a life. It deserves to be able to come into this amazing world and learn new things and grow. I will keep you in my hopes, and I wish you the best of luck, in whatever decision you make. Just think about your decision first, don’t make a decision you may regret because you acted out of fear and emotion.
God bless hun, please email me if you need to.
May 23rd, 2009 at 04:51
amanda is a bit**…dont listen to her. let me tell you…when i was 17, i had an abortion because i knew i wasnt ready financially and mentally. it was the best thing that ever happened to me. i was asleep when they did it and i woke up feeling refreshed and so unpregnant. if you dont have insurance you can always get emergency medicaid and they will cover the bill. so please, do not take on a consequence you couldnt swallow because all society is left with is a child with no sense. trust me, you will feel so much better. you are too young and have your whole life.
May 25th, 2009 at 04:21
hi you are old enough to know better abortion is murder and you should have thought about that before you had unprotected *** the health department gives them away for free your baby deserves the chance to live you did and so did he
May 27th, 2009 at 07:05
I feel so sad for you Alyshaa.
The only thing you can do is to do what suits you best.
Have a really good think about things and get as much information about adoption and abortion before you make up your mind.
I will tell you one thing from experience.
Whether you abort the baby, have the baby adopted or keep it, it will now be with you one way or another for the rest of your life, the choice you have to make is which is the best way for you to live with it.
May 27th, 2009 at 08:54
i think its odd that giving your child away to a loving home is somehow more painful than ending that potential child’s existence outright.
do what you *think* is right for you i guess.
May 28th, 2009 at 23:14
I was 18 once, also. I decided not to have my baby and chose abortion. It was an emotionally devastating decision but I felt I had no other realistic choice at the time. Yes, it hurt physically but was not more than I could handle. I had to be awake because I didn’t have the money for anesthesia. 30 years later and 4 healthy kids says I made the right choice for ME, but I still wonder what life would have been like had I made a different decision.
You might want to reread your info………you say in your last line that adoption is just the best answer for you………is this a typo or a Freudian slip?
Please talk to a doctor or Planned Parenthood clinic as soon as possible. Know your options and don’t wait if abortion is your choice. The farther along you are the worse it is.
Good luck to you.
May 29th, 2009 at 16:54
im 18 & ill be turning 19 this year .
i had an abortion on Feb.
wasnt thinking much kuhs i was terrified to tell my parents
& was going to start school . my reasons why i did it .
my fiance/future husband who is 19 was very happy
to know we were expecting but he was mad & upset about me
getting abortion he really wanted to keep it .
after so when i did it , it had hit me hard knowing what i did
to the baby , i was crying , felt bad .
im against it & couldnt believe what i did . !
everyday that goes by i miss it & so does my boyfriend .
big piece missing in both of us now .
we have it plan out that by some time at the end of tha year we will try it & are anxious & excited to do so . !
May 31st, 2009 at 04:44
I think if you don’t want to hold the baby for 9 months you should deliver the baby as early as possible and then put the baby up for adoption, but there currently aren’t any laws stopping you from having an abortion if that’s what you really want to do, it’s ultimately your choice whether you want to slaughter/butcher/suck the life right out of your baby or not.
June 3rd, 2009 at 09:56
Okay.im not going to ***** you out because that woudl be wrong and i am sure you are stressed as it is.But here are some facts about abortion.Ones that are surgical they go in and cut the baby to little peices and **** it out with a vacume liek thing.and if it has a skull yet then they will cut a hole in the back of his.her head and **** its brain out then crush its skull and pull it out.i know it sounds bad but thats because its true.there are other options than murder. Adoption is one good way.you say that you couldnt give it away after carrying it for 9months yet you could have it cut to peices?kinda messed up.also ther is another alternative.its called snow flake program.that way they take the embyro and freeze it and can give it to a person who cant have a baby!
let me know if i helped